Ch ch ch changes! Change is inevitable in life. ESPECIALLY if you are doing the deep inner work that comes along with a Yoga practice and being coached. This can sometimes feel like you are going backwards instead of forwards and that’s because learning and growth is non-linear.
There is no clearly laid out path that takes you neatly from a to z. In this blog, I will give you 3 life lessons that will help you navigate your way through life to find your purpose. They are lessons that I have learned along my own non-linear journey.
You can sometimes you take 1 step forward and 2 steps back, or go sideways, or realise that you are on the wrong path altogether and go right back to the start again! This is all good! It’s exactly what this journey of life is all about.
Your feelings are your own personal GPS system
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond. ~ Rumi
You will know that you’ve gone off track in life because your feelings will let you know. Negative feelings basically let you know the quality of your thinking. Feelings come after a thought. A thought arises in your mind and then you get a feeling attached to that thought.
Sometimes you are aware of that thought, and sometime you aren’t. If you aren’t, then it seems like it’s something outside of yourself that is causing those feelings, like that job you hate or the driver that cut you off. Nope! Those feelings are being generated by you and you alone.
They also have a valuable message for you. They are showing you beliefs or circumstances that are not serving you in a good way. If you are having strong negative feelings, ask yourself this coaching question: if that feeling could talk, what would it say? What’s it trying to tell you? Grab a journal and start writing and see what comes out. Don’t overthink or judge it, just let your thoughts pour out of your head and onto paper.
Stop ‘shoulding’ all over your life!
Have you ever heard yourself say the words ‘It’s not supposed to be like this! Life should be x’ or ‘I should be [further forward/in a different career/married/have children/have a certain amount of money in the bank etc, etc]’. Yep? Me too! I think a lot of it has to do with the path that society sets out for us:- do well in school->go to college/university->get a good job->get married->have children->continue to work in your corporate career to gather up your pension, ready for when you can finally relax and enjoy life after you retire!
The harsh reality is, life ‘should’ not be like anything. Life just is. Where in your life are you hearing the words ‘I should’ Again, grab your pen and journal and write them all out. Simply start with the words ‘I should…’ and let them out. I’ve done this exercise and it was quite surprising to see how may judgements I had about what I should or shouldn’t be doing/being/having. They were not coming from my heart either, they were coming from my inner critic!
You define what success in life looks like to you. Take the time to define that for yourself and don’t let other people’s version of success influence you. What does success look and feel like to you? Are there any ‘shoulds’ in there also? You will know if it’s coming from your heart, because your feelings will let you know!
The purpose of life is to have a life of purpose
I deeply believe that the key to happiness is to have a purpose. Something that gives your life meaning and gets you out of bed in the morning. One recent study even shows that having a purpose will help you sleep better! You can read more about that study here.
Your purpose can be anything that uses your gifts, brings you deep joy/meaning and also helps others in some way. Some people go down the route of making a cause, their career, their family or their art their purpose. The list is endless and finding it, is a non-linear path too. There is no thunder bolt from above (although for some people there is!). It’s usually a gradual unfolding and various different elements in your life coming together to reveal it to you.
Have you taken the time to think about and define your purpose? I personally have found that, especially if you are in a job/career that you really hate, then defining a purpose really helps you to figure out what you would love to do for a possible career change. If that’s not your main aim, then it simply allows you to focus on the things that fill you up. The things that make you happier, healthier and more productive.
Which brings me to some exciting news! I am currently putting together a Coaching Package that will help you define your purpose. It’s my baby! I’m digging deep and collating all my best tools, techniques and lessons that I have used along my own journey and am putting them into a transformative 3 month package, that will move you from disparity to clarity. From stuck to action. From a life of meh to a life of hell yeah!
Watch this space for further deets. I’ll be changing a few things in my business and shaking it up a bit as I go through my own non-linear journey. Why not sign up to my list to be the first to hear about it when it comes out?