What a difference a day makes! So many things have been happening this April and it has really struck me how things can change quickly, even within 24 hours. I’ve had the anticipation of getting keys for a new home, only to be disappointed about it being left in a terrible mess by the previous owner and not being able to move in. I’m currently living at my partners mum’s house while we get it all sorted out and can finally move in.
I’ve said goodbye to someone and attended their funeral. I’m now witnessing the huge gap their passing has left behind and am in total awe of how strong people can be in the face of such tragedy. I’ve passed my yearlong Yoga Teacher training to become fully qualified and Yoga Alliance registered. I’ve laughed and I’ve cried, but isn’t that just life?
I have no control over most of these types of events but I do have control over how I deal and view them and I’ve been using all my tools and techniques from my coaching, desire mapping and yoga to keep a steadiness and balance throughout. I’ve also made the decision to focus inwards for a little while and postpone my Desire Map workshop until next month.
Each day truly is a gift and you can never go back and re-live that day again. We all get so caught up in the mundane routine of life – eat, sleep, work, repeat and go into autopilot and spend most of the day not really present. Lost in thought or wishing the week away till your real life can begin at the weekend or when your next holiday begins. But the things is, this is your life now and tomorrow is not guaranteed.
“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” ~ John Lennon
I’m reminded of one of my favourite movies Groundhog Day. I’ve had that groundhog day feeling many times! Especially when commuting to work on the train and it feels like the same day over and over again. Same shit different day! You feel disengaged, disillusioned and downright depressed (and probably a whole load of other words that begin with ‘d’!). The crushing waves of boredom wash over you and you feel like you are going to drown.
This groundhog day state is completely all down to perception and really, you have everything inside of you to make it the best day or the worst day. It all comes down to your thoughts. In the movie, Phil has the same day over and over again and he goes through the full spectrum of emotions and creates a different day every time, eventually getting it right after opening himself up to love and kindness.
We however, don’t get the opportunity to live a day over and over till we get it right, so making time to reflect at the end of each day about what went right and what you can do better next time is essential. It only takes 5 minutes and is a much better use of your time than scrolling through Facebook one more time!
I’m also a big fan of the perfect day exercise, where you map out your perfect day from the moment you wake up, to the time when your head hits the pillow and you fall asleep. Write this out and put in as much detail as possible. Who do you spend it with? Where are you? What are you doing, seeing, hearing, feeling, eating?
You can’t have your perfect day everyday but how can you bring some of these elements into each day? Especially the feelings part. How can you feel the way you want to feel now? What else can you do to feel that way each and every day?
Try not to get stuck in the same old routine and bring some small variations in, such as walking a different way for a change or making an effort to be mindful and really look around you. Take it all in using all of your senses. It’s all there to be experienced and savoured. Stop worrying about the future and focus on each day as they all add up to your life in the end.
Is it easy? No, it takes commitment and practice. Is it worth it? That would be a hell yes!