If I was to ask you if you loved yourself, what would your answer be? Would the question itself make you feel uncomfortable because it brings up connotations of being arrogant? Or would you have an opposite reaction and feel it’s just some lovey dovey nonsense?!
Well, I can tell you that it’s neither of those things and it’s actually not as simple as a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer either. There are always some areas of your life where you lack self-love and end up sabotaging yourself. For example, you may be have that high flying career but you always end up in the wrong relationships. Or you may have the great relationships but you are not happy with your body and are very critical towards how you look.
Self-love is the foundation for everything, so that’s why I am focusing on that as my theme this month. If you don’t love yourself then you lack confidence, self-esteem, self-trust, healthy boundaries, self-care and you will no doubt have a particularly nasty inner critic. Your outer world is always a reflection of what is going on inside of you. If you don’t love and respect yourself, you will keep attracting people who don’t love and respect you either.
When it comes to love, you have to feel it for yourself first and not solely rely on other people to make you feel the way you want to feel, as you will inevitably be left disappointed. Nobody makes you feel a certain way anyway, it’s really you who has that power.
There are 10 aspects to self-love which are:-
To grow in self-love is to strengthen all of these areas. Just putting up the picture below of me doing a Yoga pose is an act of self-acceptance for me. I don’t really conform to Instagram’s version of a yogini. That slim, toned, ultra flexible and gorgrous girl who can contrort herself into all sorts of amazing shapes without a hair out of place or breaking a sweat! It’s enough to give you a huge dose of comparisonitis and fear of being judged. I hope that by me not looking like that, even as a Yoga Teacher and putting myself out there, you will see that Yoga is for everybody and you can love and accept yourself just as you are!
A Yoga Pose for Self Love
A great Yoga pose for connecting in with yourself is Reclined Bound Angle Pose (Supta Baddha Konasana). This is a great pose to relax and restore and show yourself some love! It’s very calming and soothing to the nervous system and it gives you a lovely inner thigh stretch too! It feels lovely and open and very loving when you put your hands over your heart.
You might even want to silently repeat a mantra in your head whilst in this position, such as ‘I am enough just as I am’ or ask yourself a question, such as ‘How can I show myself more love today?‘ and see what comes up!
Here’s how to do it:
- Lie on the floor with your knees bent and hip width apart
- Let both your legs drop to either side, open up your thighs and keep the souls of your feet together
- Place your right hand over your heart, then your left.
- Relax and breath!
If you want more, I will be running a special class on Monday night (13th February), which is the International Day of Self-Love with some heart-opening Yoga and a talk about the 10 branches of self-love at In the Moment in Glasgow at 6.30pm. So, if you need to give yourself some TLC, then I’d love for you to join me!
Let me know you are coming on the Facebook Event page or messge me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Can’t wait to see you there!
Here are some great books to read on Self-Love. I’m currently reading ‘I Heart Me’ by David Hamilton so why not read it along with me and let me know your thoughts?