How to get all your needs met

Last night I was introducing the student of my 10 week beginner Yoga course to the Chakras. The Chakras can seem like a pretty ‘out there’ concept, but as I was explaining to my students last night, they are simply a blueprint for your happiness and fulfilment. Carrying out the reflection exercise at the end of this blog, will show you how to get all your needs met through the Chakras.

If you have been feeling dissatisfied with any part of your life or even feeling a bit ‘needy’ of late, it’s good to take a look at the fundamental human needs and see where you might be lacking or even looking for them in the wrong place. You can think of them like buckets that need to be filled up to the top and even overflowing, because it’s from that overflow that you can move forwards and also give to others without depleting yourself.

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

The figure below shows a pyramid of needs as defined by Abraham Maslow, who was psychoanalyst during the 40’s. As each layer of your pyramid is fulfilled, you then move up to the next level. It moves from basic survival needs to psychological growth, to then becoming the becoming the best version of you.

This is basically the Chakras. The Chakras move up from your physical needs, to your emotional needs, your significance, love, communication, knowing/growth and finally connection/contribution to something that is bigger than you.

Paradoxes

There is however, a Universal Law of Polarity always at play and life is full of paradoxes.  There is a key one here when it comes to your needs being fulfiled.  In your life, you need both certainty and uncertainty!

  • Certainty – the needs for safety, stability , security, comfort, order, predictability, control and consistency
  • Uncertainty – the need for variety, surprise, challenge, surprise, excitement, difference, chaos, adventure, change and novelty

In every area of your life, you need a balance of certainty v’s uncertainty. If you have too much certainty, you will stagnate and become bored. However, if you have too much uncertainty, you will feel stressed and anxious. There needs to be a balance between the two.

Healthy v’s Unhealthy Fulfilment of Needs

Sometimes, we also use destructive methods to get our needs met. This can be things like having affairs, gambling, taking drugs, over partying, over spending, over eating, bullying, stealing, staying in unhealthy friendships / relationships and staying in jobs that you really hate are to name but a few! Every unhelpful habit or behaviour usually has some hidden need or ‘payoff’ attached to it.

Reflection Exercise

Reflect on your life at the moment and look at each of the life areas above and answer the following questions for each one:-

  • Do I feel safe, secure and have certainty in that area?
  • Do I have enough uncertainty to keep things interesting without sabotaging myself? If you are engaging in a sabotaging behaviour, what need do you think that is trying to fulfil?  How could you fulfil it in healthier way?
  • How would I like to feel in that area of my life and am I feeling it?
  • Do I feel I have significance, worth and a sense of importance in that area?
  • Do I have enough love and connection?
  • Am I speaking my truth and expressing myself authentically in that area?
  • Am I learning and growing within that area of my life?
  • Am I contributing to something purposeful and meaningful to me?

If you would like to work with me to figure out where you needs are not being met, then you can find out how, by clicking the link below.  As a Life Coach, I can help you get back to the happiness and fulfilment you desire.

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